Why Is This Okay? This Is Not Okay!!

Published on 7 December 2023 at 18:38

My Opinion:

I have had some thoughts for a long while, but recently, I feel I cannot ignore them any longer...

Why is it okay for women to share bathrooms, locker rooms, and other private spaces with men? Did you know that you cannot bathe your children together, same gender or not, when they are young? Yet, in public, it is okay to share private spaces with strangers of the opposite gender.

I have a friend who went through a family ordeal and was told they had to go to counseling and were scrutinized by authorities (child services and others). While going through this ordeal, they were told that the younger children could not bathe together even though they were the same gender, ages approximately three and one. It was considered child abuse and neglect. Yet, it is okay to let men into women’s private spaces; how is this okay?

I went to my public library recently for a quiet place to study. I needed to use the restroom. There was/is a sign on the door that says “All Gender” with the instructions to lock the door when you enter. Unfortunately, I did not have a choice but to use the facilities, so I went in and locked the door. Later, unfortunately, I had to use the facilities again; afterward, I left. I no longer feel safe in a place that should be safe. I have now decided to only visit the library for quick in and out trips.

What about those waiting on the other side of the door who need to use the facilities? This is not a single-use bathroom; there are two stalls. What if another woman or girl needs to use the restroom when someone is in there, and the need is desperate? That woman or girl cannot get inside.

What stops a man from going into the restroom, keeping the door unlocked, using the stall for nefarious purposes, and a woman or a child (even worse) enters thinking they are safe? Now what? There is no safety. What if a man lurks around and tries to walk in behind a woman before she locks the door? The man is always going to be stronger. What about a young girl who does not have the strength to fight off a grown man? Did anyone think of this before they came up with this policy that would victimize women and children?

Do those who made this policy realize this is going to traumatize and trigger any female and possibly male victims of abuse, especially sexual abuse? This is not a safe policy; it is very dangerous for everyone, not just victims of sexual abuse/assault.

I am not too fond of the term “safe space;” it sounds suspect, in my opinion. However, safe space is the only way to say it for this topic. We need to protect all people. Women and children are the most vulnerable, not weak, but vulnerable for being preyed upon. I will not cite statistics or other references; we all know the numbers and stories. 

Females of all ages need protection from the threat of being victims. This type of policy is not inclusive; it is downright dangerous. We must do better to protect our wives, children, grandchildren, all women, and children.

Protect, do not destroy, and stop erasing women from society.


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